Hi, Kirsty,
I'm not going to give you any suggestions for solving your problems, just some insight into what has been happening with Tilly. She was very good in the beginning because she was unsure of herself. "Is this going to be my permanent home?" As she becomes more secure, just like a kid, she starts to push the boundaries. This is normal and, in a way, is actually good -- it shows you are giving her the love and security she's been lacking. Remember how long it took Joey to settle in? I'd give her at least a year before I took anything for granted. She is working through issues you don't know about.
I am working with my third adult rescue dog. Each has been the only dog. I don't recall these kinds of problems with the rescues under a year old. They seem to have been more plastic. The older ones can be scarred by their earlier experiences. However, I think their first problem is a lack of trust in the permanence of the new home. They'll get out of the car to greet someone, then promptly turn around to get back in before you can give them away.
I think Tilly hung close at first because she didn't trust that you might not leave her. Now she believes you will wait/look for her so she can afford to be bad.
I'm lazy and am letting my new dog mostly chill out for the first few months (had her a little over a week), except where immediate boundaries are needed, so I will leave it to more ambitious people to give you advice on correcting problems. This is just to congratulate you on giving two dogs a loving home. (So loving, they find it safe to be bad!) I'm looking forward to hearing more about Joey and Tilly.
kjd
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